This is not 'Move to Texas.' It's not even 'Move.' It's 'Sever the Tie that Binds.'
It's been coming for a while. You know that as well as any of your friends. You Know that it's an integral step in achieving your end goal.
I know she 'needs' you. But she's never going to not need you unless there's some outside motivation for it. Your marriage exists in Name Only. If you remove the name, nothing remains. Then she has no claim to you any more. No right to feel upset that your only social interaction doesn't include her (And I'll say this too: As long as you are married, she does have a right to expect that some of the fun you have does include her. It's part of why people get married).
With the dissolution of the marriage, you become nothing more than Roommates splitting the rent and utilities. (And yes, I'm fairly sure I know which end of the stick that leaves you on).
Corie.. you know I consider Megan a Friend. The advice I give is for her own good as well as yours. I'm no psychologist, but I'm willing to be she feels a failure right now. She's married a man it turns out she can never truly have. She loved him once, maybe she still does. But this isn't the way Fairy Tales work. You're supposed to live happily ever after, and until the two of you do live happily ever after, she feels like she's somehow failed in her part of the bargain. Maybe I'm wrong on this. Maybe I'm not. Either way, you've GOT to take the next step toward your own dream.
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It's time for the D
Date: 2002-10-19 11:06 am (UTC)It's not even 'Move.'
It's 'Sever the Tie that Binds.'
It's been coming for a while. You know that as well as any of your friends. You Know that it's an integral step in achieving your end goal.
I know she 'needs' you. But she's never going to not need you unless there's some outside motivation for it. Your marriage exists in Name Only. If you remove the name, nothing remains. Then she has no claim to you any more. No right to feel upset that your only social interaction doesn't include her (And I'll say this too: As long as you are married, she does have a right to expect that some of the fun you have does include her. It's part of why people get married).
With the dissolution of the marriage, you become nothing more than Roommates splitting the rent and utilities. (And yes, I'm fairly sure I know which end of the stick that leaves you on).
Corie.. you know I consider Megan a Friend. The advice I give is for her own good as well as yours. I'm no psychologist, but I'm willing to be she feels a failure right now. She's married a man it turns out she can never truly have. She loved him once, maybe she still does. But this isn't the way Fairy Tales work. You're supposed to live happily ever after, and until the two of you do live happily ever after, she feels like she's somehow failed in her part of the bargain. Maybe I'm wrong on this. Maybe I'm not. Either way, you've GOT to take the next step toward your own dream.