Firstly, the lie that began it all did not originate with you. So you can hardly be blamed for EVERYTHING that followed. Did you make some bad decisions? Sure. Don't we all? Life isn't meant to be a walk through the gardens, because if it were, we wouldn't learn anything from it. You've had a harder ride than most, but you're still here and standing.
I hear you, you're saying "Standing? Barely! More like crawling desperately!" Yes, and? You're still here, you have people who DO love you and care for you, and you know that the lies were there and the consequences of perpetuating them. Now you're free, dear.
You are free of the house.
You are free of the lies.
You are free to look back at the wreckage, salvage the few shining gems that remain, and then free to move forward.
You are free to shake the last of the encumbrances and move on to becoming the person that YOU want to be. I know, I know, but I'm speaking more of an internal adjustment than an external one. It doesn't matter WHAT you look like, dear, if your head is where it needs to be. *wry smile* As many of my friends continue to try and pound into MY head over and over again.
There's a lot to mourn, and healing comes from mourning. Just don't let the mourning go on too long, Sis. Mourn, look back, then face forward and move into what will only become a brighter and brighter future.
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Date: 2004-12-19 06:56 pm (UTC)I hear you, you're saying "Standing? Barely! More like crawling desperately!" Yes, and? You're still here, you have people who DO love you and care for you, and you know that the lies were there and the consequences of perpetuating them. Now you're free, dear.
You are free of the house.
You are free of the lies.
You are free to look back at the wreckage, salvage the few shining gems that remain, and then free to move forward.
You are free to shake the last of the encumbrances and move on to becoming the person that YOU want to be. I know, I know, but I'm speaking more of an internal adjustment than an external one. It doesn't matter WHAT you look like, dear, if your head is where it needs to be. *wry smile* As many of my friends continue to try and pound into MY head over and over again.
There's a lot to mourn, and healing comes from mourning. Just don't let the mourning go on too long, Sis. Mourn, look back, then face forward and move into what will only become a brighter and brighter future.
Love you much. *HUG*