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May. 11th, 2004 06:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cabbitzilla*sigh* The Tuesday night tabletop group I've been playing in for months may well be officially disbanded.
One of the members of the Tuesday night group (R) is the live-in boyfriend of a long-time friend of mine (K); a status she shares with everyone /else/ in the group. R & K have had a rocky relationship of late; fault for said rockiness is to be found with -both- of them. K has been ... complacent. After a year and a half together with R, she still has NO clue what his interests are, and shows no inclination to correct this. R has been growing more and more hostile towards her about this, and has been taking it out in classic passive-agressive form. Things came to a head this past saturday; R lied to K, claiming he was going to be gaming with the other members of the Tuesday group. K shrugged it off - she's gotten used to R and his 'obsessive' gaming interests, and made plans to go to a movie with a friend from her work. When she arrived at the theater, there was R and three of the members of the gaming group. Obviously they weren't gaming, as two of them had shopping bags from other stores in the mall. When K asked why R had lied to her, he responded 'Because I didn't want to be with you.' And then he turned back to the others and made a joke about K following him everywhere.
Later that evening, despite efforts on my part to stay the hell out of what was looking to be a VERY messy breakup, I got officially drug into it. Online messages I can dodge if I absolutely have to, but when someone shows up at my door crying hysterically, it's just not possible to duck things. I did my best to help K get herself together, carefully trying to stay neutral on R's actions and comments. She left here in better shape than she'd arrived, having been reminded that she'd successfully survived this before, and I was hopeful that the potential bonfire had been put out.
Unbeknownst to me until about four hours ago, there was fire burning in another place. The Tuesday night game is held at H & C's home; C's been R's best friend for nearly 10 years, and H is one of K's better friends. C also has been the game master for the group. C's efforts to try and stay neutral have not been as successful as mine; his wife, H, has leaped into the fray with both feet... and declared R persona non gratis for his actions. Ordinarily, this would have simply resulted in sessions continuing without R until H calmed down. Things are complicated majorly by the fact that C has been, for the last two sessions, in the process of handing the game over to R to run, so that he could play for a bit.
Still with me? This is one seriously tangled little soap opera. Because of H's temper and her strident criticism of R and of anyone who tries to stay neutral (much less supportive of him), C & H's home is now a warzone. About a half hour ago, C officially called/suspended the game until further notice...
Did I mention that aside from the Tuesday night game, I have -no- social life outside of my computer?
*sigh*
I ... think I'm going to go have another cigarette. Yes, I know this is not 'catastrophic' by any sense of the word... but it's very disappointing. I look forward to the gaming sessions each week, and I really could have done without the drama. Most of this really could have been headed off had R simply had the balls to break things off clean with K... who is aggravating the entire situation with histrionics and dragging everyone who'll listen into the middle.
EDIT: I've also just discovered that my LJ client's a bit buggy... a discovery made by posting this in a community at first, instead of my own journal. To those in that community, I'm VERY sorry, and will make sure to doublecheck each entry from now on. Stupid client... stupider (is that even a word) typist...
One of the members of the Tuesday night group (R) is the live-in boyfriend of a long-time friend of mine (K); a status she shares with everyone /else/ in the group. R & K have had a rocky relationship of late; fault for said rockiness is to be found with -both- of them. K has been ... complacent. After a year and a half together with R, she still has NO clue what his interests are, and shows no inclination to correct this. R has been growing more and more hostile towards her about this, and has been taking it out in classic passive-agressive form. Things came to a head this past saturday; R lied to K, claiming he was going to be gaming with the other members of the Tuesday group. K shrugged it off - she's gotten used to R and his 'obsessive' gaming interests, and made plans to go to a movie with a friend from her work. When she arrived at the theater, there was R and three of the members of the gaming group. Obviously they weren't gaming, as two of them had shopping bags from other stores in the mall. When K asked why R had lied to her, he responded 'Because I didn't want to be with you.' And then he turned back to the others and made a joke about K following him everywhere.
Later that evening, despite efforts on my part to stay the hell out of what was looking to be a VERY messy breakup, I got officially drug into it. Online messages I can dodge if I absolutely have to, but when someone shows up at my door crying hysterically, it's just not possible to duck things. I did my best to help K get herself together, carefully trying to stay neutral on R's actions and comments. She left here in better shape than she'd arrived, having been reminded that she'd successfully survived this before, and I was hopeful that the potential bonfire had been put out.
Unbeknownst to me until about four hours ago, there was fire burning in another place. The Tuesday night game is held at H & C's home; C's been R's best friend for nearly 10 years, and H is one of K's better friends. C also has been the game master for the group. C's efforts to try and stay neutral have not been as successful as mine; his wife, H, has leaped into the fray with both feet... and declared R persona non gratis for his actions. Ordinarily, this would have simply resulted in sessions continuing without R until H calmed down. Things are complicated majorly by the fact that C has been, for the last two sessions, in the process of handing the game over to R to run, so that he could play for a bit.
Still with me? This is one seriously tangled little soap opera. Because of H's temper and her strident criticism of R and of anyone who tries to stay neutral (much less supportive of him), C & H's home is now a warzone. About a half hour ago, C officially called/suspended the game until further notice...
Did I mention that aside from the Tuesday night game, I have -no- social life outside of my computer?
*sigh*
I ... think I'm going to go have another cigarette. Yes, I know this is not 'catastrophic' by any sense of the word... but it's very disappointing. I look forward to the gaming sessions each week, and I really could have done without the drama. Most of this really could have been headed off had R simply had the balls to break things off clean with K... who is aggravating the entire situation with histrionics and dragging everyone who'll listen into the middle.
EDIT: I've also just discovered that my LJ client's a bit buggy... a discovery made by posting this in a community at first, instead of my own journal. To those in that community, I'm VERY sorry, and will make sure to doublecheck each entry from now on. Stupid client... stupider (is that even a word) typist...
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Date: 2004-05-12 06:51 am (UTC)But thank you for the idea. Were the house a bit cleaner (and my housemate not so damned fidgetty), it would definitely be an option.
*hugs* Looks like it's jigsaw puzzles and maybe the PS2 for me for a while...